Marriage

Enquiries about the possibility of being married at St Mary’s should be made to Revd. Andrew Smith through the Parish Administrator Tel: 01372 375000 for you to request a copy of the Marriage Application Pack.

For guidance, we suggest you read the information from the Church of England which is written below.

“There are two ways by which you can be married:

1. Civil marriage in a Register Office/other licensed venue
2. Christian marriage (in Church)

Civil marriage excludes any content that is remotely religious and you do not even have to promise to love each other.

Christian marriage, by contrast, centres around making a promise to love each other and recognise that we are much more likely to succeed with God’s guidance and help.

A couple who live in Fetcham Parish have the legal entitlement to be married in St Mary’s Fetcham. Additionally, if you are baptised regular worshipping members who have joined the church Electoral Roll, you may marry in St Mary’s. If either one of you has been married before, please speak to the Rector.

If you can demonstrate one of any of the following ‘Qualifying Connections’ to a parish, you have a legal entitlement to be married in the parish church of that parish (‘Church of England Marriage Measure 2008’).

If you:
i) have at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least six months;
ii) were baptized in the parish concerned;
iii) were prepared for confirmation in the parish and confirmed;
iv) have at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of six months;
or,
If one of your parents, at any time after you were born:
v) has lived in the parish for a period of at least six months;
vi) has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least six months;
or,
If one of your parents or grandparents:
vii) was married in the parish;”

If you do not have any of the above connections, you may create a connection by regularly worshipping at the church for a period of at least six months, at the discretion of the Rural Dean. A connection could also be made by the couple’s parents regularly worshipping for a period of at least six months.

The Church of England’s rules on weddings are not just internal rules, but are law.

If a couple do not have a Qualifying Connection to the parish they cannot have a legal wedding here. The option of a civil wedding followed by a service of blessing is available to you, at the discretion of the Rural Dean.

A Marriage Course is run every year for those about to get married.

Wedding Flowers: Please contact Linda Tippelt through the Parish Office. There is a dedicated Website for Wedding Flowers